Kiss and Tell

When I was four years old, my kindergarten teacher caught me kissing one of my classmates behind the bushes on our playground.

She was obviously scandalized by my behavior, and I remembering wondering why. It seemed a natural exploration, given that I saw adults kissing each other all the time. I longed to learn what they knew. I wanted to dissect the mystery of the kiss.

My first real kisses were intensely arousing, and I still remember feeling all the nerves in my lips and tongue come alive, as my yoni burst into an intense wetness and desire for its own touch. I remember the fire of arousal burning hotter and hotter in me as we kissed, and wishing for more, but not being sure what "more" would be. I remember the sweet ache those kisses created in me for days afterward, and wanting more of that feeling of a tongue sliding sweetly over my lips, teeth, and tongue. With later kisses, I remember the jolt of having my budding breasts and nipples touched for the first time, and how the pleasure of that touch seemed to radiate through my whole body, like a miniature sun of pleasure. I remember the feeling of deep connection, a desire to merge, that those kisses created for me. Years later, I felt no surprise when the movies "Pretty Woman" and "French Kiss" both described a kiss as special, so special that it cost extra to kiss a "lady of the night" if she would allow it at all.

Kissing is where the deepest opening lies to my heart. Maybe it’s just a girl thing, but kissing opens me, and plugs me in to all the love I have for the universe and for the man I am kissing. When I open like that, I make love from the deepest place in my soul, and touch and lovemaking become 10 times more powerful.

As a teacher, I have learned to apply the principles of shamanic tantra to kissing and to touch. Joyfully, I practice breathing (which can be tough while kissing!), being in the moment, and connecting to Spirit while I kiss. Doing all this turns kissing and touching into a soulful and playful healing that helps the kundalini rise and burn through my old ways of being in relationship. In this place I can find the freedom to express my touch or kiss as passionate, playful, deeply emotional, or sensual, depending on my mood. Then I have total freedom, no longer confined to only one way of being and connecting with another. Ultimately my practice creates deeper and more profound connection, a more open heart, and a passionate soul.

I would love to hear from YOU about your first kiss, and how it made you feel. What is it about that first kiss that you would like to create in your life today? Share your story by leaving us a note in the Leave a Reply box at the bottom of this page.

Namaste,

Kypris

Kypris, Dakini and Shamanic Tantra Teacher holds a master’s degree in Biology, as well as a master’s degree in Counseling Psychology, and is an initiated HeartWisdom Tantric Priestess. She is the author of “Journey to Sexual Wholeness, The Six Gateways to Tantric Sexuality”.

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